I have chores that need to be completed while napping is taking place, but before I do so, I thought I might just take a minute to vent and give a little insight into one of my pet peeves.
The last few days...well, for me, over the summer, I have been struggling with just letting go of the past, but the past few days, my husband and I have been discussing our feelings on (in general (excuses and judgement). As a personal example, over summer break, I was told that I wasn't approached, and a conversation was not broached over this one particular topic because "People feel like they have to walk on egg shells around me, and didn't want to hurt my feelings."
What!? I'm sorry. I may have been unapproachable a few years ago, but I am no longer that way. I may still get upset at first, but I need to time to process and ponder about what was discussed. Don't you dare try to give me an excuse on why I was not approached. To me, that just shows immaturity on your part, and causes the whole situation to be that much harder to resolve. Also, don't go jumping someones case for a particular quirk when you yourself are struggling with the same issue.
Whatever happened to the Scripture passage.....
Matthew 7:1-5
"Judge not, that ye be not judged. For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again. And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother’s eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye? Or how wilt thou say to thy brother, Let me pull out the mote out of thine eye; and, behold, a beam is in thine own eye? Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother’s eye."
My husband and I have discussed this so much...even with the issues at work, he has told his boss the same thing..."If you have an issue with me, come to me so we can resolve it. Don't make it harder to resolve by not doing so."
Needless to say, you now know a pet peeve of mine....being called out on things when you, yourself, have the same issue. I'm not saying that we should not judge. We should. With righteous judgement, Discerning between good and evil. However, we should not judge and help someone correct a quirk of theirs that we ourselves struggle with.
Now, if we work together to overcome the quirk in common, that is a whole new different type of ball game....